We have all heard of the golden rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you,” or treat others as you would want to be treated. 

A man named David Kerpen wrote a newer version called the “Platinum Rule” which states, “do unto others as they want to be done.”  In other words, in certain situations how we desire to be treated is not always how others would also want to be treated.  When you think about it this is probably true especially in group situations such as your job or on a team or even in your family.  But this thinking is also based on personality which could take us in many different directions. 

However, I like to think of the ways Jesus treated others.  Ways that were different and yet the same.  Within his disciples he knew that Peter was quick to understand who he was, “you are the Christ,” (Matt. 16:16), but that he also needed discipline 7 verses later, “get behind me Satan.”  Jesus knew that Thomas needed physical proof of the resurrection, so he made sure he appeared to him. (John 21:17.)  Many times when dealing with the Pharisees he spoke with truthfulness and authority but in a non- threatening way.  The fact that he spoke to many women throughout the scriptures including a Samaritan woman at a well shows his love and inclusiveness of all. 

So we may use the platinum rule in certain situations, but I think everyone wants to be treated with respect, dignity, kindness, and love.  Jesus said it best in Matthew 22:37-39.   The two greatest commandments are “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. and the second one is love your neighbor as yourself.”  If you love your neighbor as yourself, you can’t help but treat them the right way.  Remember Jesus always knows what you need, and he loves you unconditionally.

Nancy